Freeing Yourself from Reaction With Vulnerability

What we don't want to feel, we don't own. To own, is to take something as yours, to welcome it.

What we don't own, we project / disown. Projection comes in the form of blame and anger.

Blame says, "You're responsible for how I'm feeling."

Ownership says, "I'm responsible for seeing, feeling, valuing and validating what I'm feeling."

Blame is the opposite of responsibility. Responsibility is "taken". Blame gives away what we don't want to see, feel or admit.

Thomas Hubl said:

"Reaction is acting before we feel. Responding is an action that is informed by feeling."

If you want to stop reacting ("re-enacting" the past) you've got to start owning the vulnerable emotions underneath anger: Helplessness, fear, sadness, hurt.